Things I have learned

My mother's memories of current events are not the greatest, but I have learned about silly situations that my cousins and aunts have been in. Things that my mother and father used to do together. Chicago the way it was when my mom grew up their. So much history that I never knew even though my mother did our families genealogy. I have also learned to sit still and listen late at night when she can't sleep. I even look forward to our late night conversations and kind of feel cheated when I check in on her and she is sound asleep,(silly I know). I have learned that even though we drive each other crazy at times, I am grateful to have her with me.

Medications

Last week mom's doctor tried her on a new antidepressant. Within 2 days she was more confused and got agitated very easy. So I called the doctors office. I wanted to stop the medication, they wanted urine (urinary track infections can increase confusion). They got their urine, I stopped the medication and 3 days later I had my calm and less confused mom back. Stay up on the medication given to your loved one. Plus, trust your gut when it comes to their care.

Mom's personality

In my nursing career we were taught that the subconscious attitude of an individual comes out when dementia hits. I have to say I am glad mom was always docile. She has her ups and downs but, I think that happens when she realizes that her memory is truly going and she has a very hard time doing the simple things. Such as toileting, setting the table, putting away her own clothes. But, she gets angry at herself not at anyone else. She tries so hard then gets upset when she can not succeed. I wish I could find things that she could accomplish.

What a difference a day makes

It is a bright sunny day. Mom woke alert and pretty oriented. Dressed without much help. Ate breakfast and took her pills without much prompting. We are going to sort buttons in a while. After she helps me dry dishes. I live for days that start like this.